Do
it Faster: Get Over a Grudge
Forget
being right
A
friend ticked you off? Here’s how to move past it, suggests Philip H. Friedman,
PhD, author of The Forgiveness
Solution.
“In life, you get a choice between being right and being happy,” Friedman says.
After
a blowup, remind yourself what you really desire—happiness, peace, and
fulfillment—to help you get over your frustration.
Argue
the other side
Expectations
we put on others are often at the root of hurt feelings, what Friedman calls should-ing—“She
should have RSVP’d sooner.”
Accept
that there’s more than one way for people to act, and it’ll be easier to move
on.
Argue
the other side could as well mean "Put Yourself In The Other Person's
Shoes"
If
what caused the break up hurts you, then it could be hurting him or her the
more
Decide
what you want
Ask
yourself what kind of relationship you want, and only reach out when you’re
feeling positive and ready to patch things up.
If
you do not have an idea of what you really want out of a relationship, you
would continue to make the same mistakes.
Though
your heart is necessary for a relationship to thrive, but your head is also
needed, don't leave it at home when you need to meet up with someone.
In
all, it is in your own best interest that you drop a grudge you are carrying
against someone and just live your life.
They
may not even be aware that you have something against them and you just go on
eating yourself slowly on the inside.
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