While people call for justice,
psychologists have warned that there is need to examine a rapist or risk
sending to jail a mentally derailed person.
One of such is Dr Adeoye Oyewole, a Consultant Psychiatrist.
He argued that no normal person can engage in rape.
“I think that a rapist is not a normal person. Rape is a form of intercourse
under coercion. Sexual intercourse takes place every day but what makes it
abnormal is that it is not with the consent of both partners. Anyone who fails
to seek the consent of others is said to be abnormal.
“As a
professional, it could be as a result of mental illness. Such a person should
go for analysis to ascertain if he or she is psychologically sound. I know that
women could be angry when they hear such. But they should also ask, could this
man be sick?
“You hear
of a 60-year-old man defiling a 14-year-old child. What does he want to gain
from it? Sexual health is not about the physical satisfaction but goes hand in
hand with emotional aspect of it. It included the feedback that you get which
means that you can talk about it.
What kind
of feedback do you intend to get from such a child. It should be mandatory for
a rapist to go for a psychiatric investigation. It is rather unfortunate that
thousands of cases are not reported. We have had cases where parents take
their raped child to the hospital and hide the facts. They will not even tell
the doctor that their daughter was raped.”
He called
on NGOs that deal on rape issues to ensure looking at the punitive nature of
the crime and recommend that the suspect should go for assessment. “It will
help people to understand the forces of rape. Someone hearing voices can be
under the influence of that voice. Someone who just started taking hard drugs
is said to be mentally impaired. Some people might have an impulse control
disorder, some might be nymphomaniac.”
Just like
the rapist, Oyewole advocated that victims need more help. “Someone who has
been raped cannot see a man as a normal human being. Sometimes when you see some
people very religious, it could be because they were raped. Even some will find
it difficult to get married. Even if they do, they will find it difficult to
establish a normal sexual relationship. Others find it difficult to love a man,
some go into prostitution just get back at men.”
He
suggested that owners of health centres and NGOs should establish a help line
that they can be reached. “It could come inform of an email, telephone line or
even a website. The victim and the rapist are already stigmatized, so to help
them it has to be done secretly. Another group that could help is the religious
organisation, who can pray that the people who were raped should come for
special prayers. By so doing you will indirectly get a psychologist as part of
the counselling team.”
Another
expert, Dr Mrs Esther Foluke Akinsola, a Consultant on Developmental and
Clinical Psychology said that thousands of victims are living with the mental
torture. Dr Akinsola, who is also a senior lecturer at the Department of
Psychology at the University of Lagos, said there is some kind of stigma
attached at being labelled a rape victim. Hence it is one of the key reasons
rape victims abhor coming out to voice their defilement.
According
to her, a rape victim feels debased. “Her psyche is shattered. She fills
defiled. A rape victim becomes emotionally distraught because her person is
damaged. And honesty, nobody wants to be identified as a rape victim. That is
they why they withdraw because there person has being violated. Their self-esteem
has been shattered. Psychologically, the victim feels dehumanized. And because
of that, they avoid being identified as rape victims.
“The
society is not very supportive because there is some form of stigma attached
to being identified as rape victim. A rape victim is angry. In fact, angry is
even a subtle way to put it. She is engulfed in seething rage. And since the
rapist overpowered and had canal knowledge of her, she experiences a sense of
powerlessness. She bottles her anger. She is angry at herself and at society.
She is confused at who to blame for her predicament. She sees herself as a
misfit of the society because her person has been polluted.”
She
warned on the danger of not summoning courage to tell the story. “It has so
many consequences. Many of them resolve their anger in different ways. They
could either become wayward or promiscuous. Some of them develop hatred for
men.
“One
important information is that most rapists are known to the victims. I still
need to do a thorough research on this though. But 80 per cent rape cases I
have studied were committed by either family members, or family friends or
their social friends. Stranger rape cases occur, but are very few. And that is
why the victim finds it difficult to cross over debasement.
“To
worsen it, when the rape occurs within a family member, some parents tend to
cover it up. They would strongly chide and hush the rape victim never to say it
out, to avoid bring disharmony within their family. So, the people that are
supposed to believe and assist the victims, ends up asking them to just shut
up. And reveal nothing.
“Such
situations don’t allow the victim to dissuade their anger. So, their rage keeps
on building up and the only they unleash it is to engage in defiant behaviours.
“In fact,
those of them that come out to say must have garnered a lot of courage. We need
avenues by which victims can feel safe to open up. I don’t know if we have much
of such platforms in Nigeria. I use to hear of Crime Victim Foundation, but I
don’t know if they still exist. The foundations take up rape cases as they try
to rehabilitate and repair the psyche of rape victims.”
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