Raise your hand if you're
always looking for quick and simple ways to make your busy and stressful days a little bit better.
Are you waving your arms
enthusiastically over your head? Me too.
Just like you, my days get busy.
And if there's an easy trick that promises to make me end each workday feeling more positive --and a little less frazzled--I'm all for it.
So, in my quest to bring a
little more sunshine into my workdays, I decided to try something: Every day
for one week, I paid someone a genuine and heartfelt compliment.
Spreading Positivity
What exactly made me think
of this activity specifically? Well, there were a few reasons that led me down
this path.
First and foremost, I knew
that a task like this would be fairly easy.
While I'm not exactly
generous with praise (we all tend to be a little stingy with the compliments),
I could instantly think of dozens of people or accomplishments who deserved my
recognition--recognition that had previously gone completely unsaid.
So I knew that this
wouldn't involve a huge investment in time, thought, or energy.
Secondly, I figured that
doing something like this didn't just stand a chance to improve my day--it
could improve someone else's day as well. That's an added bonus.
And finally, I knew that
paying compliments was something that previously made me feel good. As much as
I love receiving recognition and praise, I almost enjoy doling it out even
more.
So I knew that this sort
of exercise had significant chances of boosting my mood on a daily basis.
The Science of Kindness
Before I jumped in with my
mini social experiment, I wanted to roll up my sleeves and familiarize myself
with what I could expect moving forward.
Receiving a compliment
feels good--that much I already knew. In fact, studies show that
compliments activate the same part of the brain that cash rewards do.
But what about giving
compliments? It'll make the recipient's day better, but will it realistically
accomplish anything for me?
Here's what I found out:
absolutely! Numerous studies point to the fact that spreading positivity can
give you a definite boost.
For example, using a life
satisfaction survey, researchers in Great Britain concluded
that performing random acts of kindness (which can range from paying a
compliment to buying someone's coffee) can significantly increase someone's
satisfaction with their own life.
The Act of Paying
Compliments
Needless to say, I was
convinced of the many benefits. So, I took five minutes of each day during one
workweek to pay a compliment to someone in my network.
Since I work remotely,
these pleasantries were delivered via personalized emails. But if you have the
ability to compliment someone in person, I'd highly recommend that!
One day, I sent an email
to the editor of a website I admired to let her know that I was loving the
site's recent content and that their newsletters were knocking things out of
the park.
Another day, I sent a message
to a fellow writer to tell her how much I loved her recent article.
The next day, I took a
page from a previous tactic of mine and jotted a note to a past mentor
thanking her again for all of her advice and guidance.
The Results
As suspected, sending
these friendly sentiments made me feel great.
But what I didn't expect?
I received a prompt response from every single one of those people letting me
know how much they appreciated my message and that they were going to turn
around and dish out a few compliments themselves.
Pretty great, right? I
felt like I had started a chain reaction of positivity, which in turn boosted
my mood and outlook far more than I had even anticipated.
So, if you're feeling a
little down in the dumps--or even if you're not--follow in my footsteps and
take five minutes out of your busy workday to pay a genuine compliment to
someone who deserves one.
It's something I plan to
continue doing, and I'm willing to bet you'll soon feel the same way.
Source: Inc.com
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