Sunday, June 14, 2015

How To Get Over A Grudge

Do it Faster: Get Over a Grudge

Forget being right

A friend ticked you off? Here’s how to move past it, suggests Philip H. Friedman, PhD, author of The Forgiveness Solution.

“In life, you get a choice between being right and being happy,” Friedman says.

After a blowup, remind yourself what you really desire—happiness, peace, and fulfillment—to help you get over your frustration.

Argue the other side
Expectations we put on others are often at the root of hurt feelings, what Friedman calls should-ing—“She should have RSVP’d sooner.”

Accept that there’s more than one way for people to act, and it’ll be easier to move on.

Argue the other side could as well mean "Put Yourself In The Other Person's Shoes"

If what caused the break up hurts you, then it could be hurting him or her the more

Decide what you want
Ask yourself what kind of relationship you want, and only reach out when you’re feeling positive and ready to patch things up.

If you do not have an idea of what you really want out of a relationship, you would continue to make the same mistakes.

Though your heart is necessary for a relationship to thrive, but your head is also needed, don't leave it at home when you need to meet up with someone.

In all, it is in your own best interest that you drop a grudge you are carrying against someone and just live your life.

They may not even be aware that you have something against them and you just go on eating yourself slowly on the inside.